All you narcissists out there can add another gold star to your list of admirable qualities—honesty.
Unfortunately, in this case it’s to a painful fault.
And all you non-narcissists out there can take comfort in the fact that that person you know who is really full of themselves, is fully aware of how annoying they are.
A team of researchers at Washington University in St. Louis wanted to determine to what extent the perceptions vain people varies based on how they view themselves, how they are seen by others, and how they believe others see them.
The findings were rather surprising. It turns out not only are the vain full of themselves, and borderline dilussional, they’re also perceptive.
They know that you want to smack them with a hand mirror (or what ever else is handy) when they won’t stop talking about themselves.
And they don’t care a wink.
According to research, they probably think others don’t see their brilliance because they’re jealous or not smart enough to recognize it.
Just remember that the next time you’re reaching for the hand mirror, they’re not abnoxious, you’re just jealous.
More on the Story: MSNBC
…just for fun:
Looking at the headlines today it’s hard to be positive about the state of the world.
With all of the blind hatred, doomed peace talks, and political games going on out there it’s easy to assume the worst.
But don’t worry I found something that is improving: our vanity.
Yes, we are growing (literally and emotionally). More of us have realized that we will never be models or movie stars and comparing ourselves to that unattainable “ideal” only ends badly.
Sounds great right? Just wait. Since we’ve accepted our sentence as “average,” we’ve moved on from comparing ourselves to movie stars to judging ourselves against all of the other “average” people out there.
Good news,a lot of us think we’re pretty fabulous.
In the under 30 crowd about 30% of us think we’re at least an 8.
That’s of course on the very official 10 point attractive scale.
And everyone knows the highest you can rate yourself and still maintain some sense of modesty is a 7.
We’re becoming “those” people.
It’s not so bad…yet. There’s still time.
I don’t want to squelch self-confidence, but there’s a fine line between confidence and vanity…so watch it…and tread carefully!
Blind Hatred: Huffington Post
Peace Talks: New York Times
it’s important to have realistic expectations…some times…
Today in ridiculous headlines I have a rather disturbing piece of news.
It seems there’s a new trend in preteen beauty treatments…and when I say preteen I mean as young as 8…which will make this all the more upsetting.
The new trend is waxing…
I’ll let you fill in the blanks on what exactly that means,but trust me, it is just as bad as you’re imagining.
What makes it worse is that there are salons out there actually promoting this and parents buying into it.
The selling points? Convenience and economy…turns out that if you start as young as 8 it takes as few as 2-6 sessions to permanently stop hair growth.
Salons say the reasoning behind these procedures spans from mothers obsessed with their daughter’s appearance to mothers worried about their daughter getting teased.
I see a commonality here.
But really what’s the harm right? We’re just creating a generation of girls who think that beauty is one thing.
Just think, a whole new breed of female that sees vanity as acceptable and normal.
I’m sure eventually they’ll come up with a way to surgically remove the egocentric gene as well…so why not?
Sure teaching your child that they’re beautiful just the way they are/not to pick on other children may seem like a reasonable alternative…but I suppose beauty is pain.
And just one last thing…OUCH!!!
maybe the lost boys have something here…
Today, I have a bone to pick with clothing retailers.
I’ve been on to their scam for a while now, and it seems the media is catching on as well.
I’m talking about the all too common practice of “vanity sizing.”
For those unfamiliar with the term, “vanity sizing” is an attempt by clothing manufacturers to flatter their female customers by changing the measurements of sizes.
In other words, it’s a not so elaborate lie.
Yes, I admit it sounds great. I mean who wouldn’t want to be a size 6 even though they’re actually a size 10?
Unless you go around shouting out your clothing size to anyone who will listen, it doesn’t really change anything.
I’m not claiming that all clothing stores have adopted this practice, but I can tell you from personal experience that some clothing giants have.
I don’t want to point the finger of blame at a specific store so let’s just call this particular brand NavyGapRepublic.
At NavyGapRepublic I’ve gone from a medium to an extra small over the past few years.
My scale would beg to differ with this change in size, but according to NavyGapRepublic I’m slowly disappearing.
Now I realize that plenty of people will think, “Poor dear, she has to wear an extra small” (cue orchestra of tiny violins).
My point is that I’m not an extra small, and yet if retailers continue with this trend I (and a lot of other consumers) won’t fit into their clothes anymore. At least not without the help of a tailor.
There’s a problem when a healthy, active person can’t buy clothing that fits at a regular store.
It’s called an excess of vanity.
The Whole Story: Vanity Sizes
…just for fun:
I finally gave in and got my hair cut today. It’s not that I mind getting my hair cut. I actually enjoy it. If my hair gets too close to my shoulders it bothers me.
But I’ve always had issues with the whole, spending an hour staring at myself. It’s awkward right? Feels a little narcissistic. Which seems to be the theme of the day. Especially after spending all that time staring at myself and contemplating whether or not I could blog about that.
Then, as the blog fates would have it, I got back to my apartment and started trying to blog about my trip to the salon (wasn’t going well), when what should pop up on my news feed, but an article from Newsweek with the headline, “Privileged Kids Aren’t In Peril- They’re Just More Likely To Be Popular.” So of course I had to click. And there it was, my word of the day.
Hope you enjoyed my creative process. Fascinating right? Now on to my rant…I mean revelation…I mean reaction:
Without getting into any correlation or causation, I have to say my response to this article (abbreviated of course) was: Really?!?! (interpret that as you will)
Here’s a quote:
“Compared with their lower- and middle-class peers, affluent kids are more aggressive, stressed, anxious, narcissistic, and perfectionistic. They are disproportionately involved in illegal drugs and alcohol. With parents often absent, they seem on their own; that often leads to some engaging in delinquent behavior.”
Apparently in psychological circles, this list of adjectives doesn’t necessarily describe affluent kids, but popular ones. So rich kids are popular and therefore narcissistic? Or are they narcissistic because they’re popular? Or maybe they’re narcissistic and therefore popular, you know they whole love yourself and others will love you sort of thing. I’m feeling a question about a chicken and an egg coming on are you?
Oh, the curse of popularity. Don’t you just hate it when people like you?
I know what a lot of you are thinking right now. I’ll say it for you, “Why you’re liked is more important than how many people like you.” I wouldn’t want people liking me for my money either, if that were possible.
I’ve found that when I look at studies like this I usually end up at the same conclusion. We’re all human (even the rich kids) and we’re all victims of our own circumstance. It’s what we do with those circumstances that define who we are, regardless.
Especially at this time of year I acknowledge and am grateful for my advantages and blessings.
We all have problems, that’s life. Trying to define who’s problems are worse is pointless.
Read the article (the link’s above), pass your own judgments, let me know.