We determine the way the world sees us. Okay, that on its own is not particularly surprising, but the psychology behind it is.
Essentially if you go around assuming that no one likes you, eventually that will become true. Shockingly most people aren’t huge fans of self-pity.
Of course, if you’re a jerk who believes that everyone likes you, that won’t necessarily make it true. However, all of you paranoid mopers who skulk around assuming that everyone hates you, congratulations, you’re probably right!
It’s a reality that was in fact created by your own delusions (isn’t that interesting), but point is, in the end you were correct. Enjoy the validation.
You create your own reality (within reason sci-fi fans), why not make it a happy one.
“If You Think Everyone Hates You, Everyone Will Hate You”: MSNBC
If you’re looking for recent, curiously specific studies then have I got some good news for you. One such research effort found that eBay pages with the color red on them made consumers more likely to bid higher.
Because the color red is so notorious for creating calm, logical, strategic thought processes.
No offense red. I love you, I do, but you are not a calming, reassuring color. Bulls (who are color blind to be fair) chase you. You represent debt, anger, and the greatest team in baseball (so you have one thing going for you).
But good for you, you’ve found your niche–inciting panicked purchases. Clearly a large part of the population responds to stress by clicking “buy.” Wait, now it makes sense.
Based on these findings it’s a miracle anyone ever buys anything on Amazon. They have their color scheme all wrong. What were they thinking with that golden-yellow and crisp white?
Still, as a notorious over-thinking shopper, the only time red encourages me to make a purchase is when it’s accompanied by a Cardinal’s logo.
“Using Red on eBay Pages Results in Higher Bids”: The Atlantic
A new study may explain why that is–you think you’re smarter than everyone else.
Don’t feel bad, everyone else thinks they’re smarter than you too. This study found that humans have a disconnect between where they hide things and where they look for things.
That disconnect comes from the inherent belief that we are each more clever than the next person. Basically we’re programmed to be arrogant.
Isn’t that a horrible thought? I am all for self-confidence, but being pre-wired to think that you are smarter than everyone else just seems downright pompous. Not to mention it cannot possibly be true.
What were these study people thinking? Why would we want to know this?
…and lastly, I think the big question has been over-looked. Why are you hiding your wallet from yourself?
“Where to Hide Your Wallet So That You Can Find it Again Later”: MSNBC
…the succinctness that this title possesses must, most definitely, be immediately recognized…well done MSNBC…incredibly well done…
It’s the holiday season. A time for giving, merriment, and schadenfreude.
scha·den·freu·de [shahd-n-froi-duh] noun- satisfaction or pleasure felt at someone else's misfortune. (Courtesy of Dictionary.com)
Example: You’re out spreading holiday cheer with your family at the local mall. You pass the Santa line (the lesser ones, without the fast pass), which has moved to form its own union and overthrow the elf tyrants who stand between them and Father Christmas. As you stroll past them, and the four city blocks they inhabit, you think to yourself, “I’m glad that’s not me.” You smile to yourself, and stroll on free of elfin entrapment.
So maybe it’s not something you want to add to your list of traditions, but it’s human nature. Is it maniacal, ill-willed, and just a little bit petty? Yes, but hey, we’re human.
And I bring good news for the victims of schadenfreude. According to a new study, the degree to which we “enjoy” the failures of others, is a reflection of our own self-esteem. Shocking. Right?
So after making someone else feel better about themselves by face-planting in the light display because you were staring at your phone, take comfort (and perhaps a little bit of delight) in the fact that those hecklers have no self-regard.
Sure, that won’t stop them from laughing, pointing, mocking, and/or making up songs about your lack of coordination.
So next time you find yourself the butt of a joke, just remember, you’re boosting the self-esteem of all those jerks laughing at you. Feel better?
“What Schadenfreude Says About Your Self-Esteem”: MSNBC
Proof that there’s a song for everything…
“I’m having a bad day.”
“I haven’t had my coffee.”
“I’m just a generally unpleasant person.”
Excuses, excuses, excuses…
We’ve all heard them and we’ve all doled out a few ourselves.
Nobody is perfect, but there is no excuse for bad manners.
According to researchers at the American Psychological Association %75 to %80 of people have experienced incivility (personally I prefer petty illogical rudeness, but to each his own regency-era terminology).
Of course rudeness knows no bounds, but this survey focused primarily on the workplace. Also known as where passive aggressiveness comes to play.
We could assume that this figure means that %20 to %25 percent of us are mean, but that would seem unfair.
So this is a blanket reprimand: BE NICE!!!
I understand that snidely responding to what you see as a stupid question at the moment may make you feel better for the time being, but it does not last.
Eventually that negative energy you sent out there is going to get back to you and karma is a…
…well you know what karma is.
“Incivility a Growing Problem at Work, Psychologists Say”: USA Today